Tuesday, September 16, 2008

The Proposal


The guy is from Wisconsin.

He’s 57, thrice divorced with 5 adopted children. Two of his ex-wives gained custody of their adopted children and he was sued for child support. He enlisted on an interracial dating website. He’s looking for a wife aged 32 years old and younger.

The girl is from Cebu.

She’s 28. Never been married. Never been engaged. Was proposed four times and each time she said no. She’s a single mother with a biological 2-year-old daughter. She enlisted on an interracial dating website upon the prodding of her friends and family members who apparently found their mate online. She’s looking for a friend and husband aged 35 to 45 years old.

Wisconsin guy.

He clicked on her site and showed interest.

Cebu girl.

She responded by asking him if he’s interested with her. She doesn’t have the slightest interest in the guy but out of curiosity she responded.

The communication between them then started. The guy showed interest in the girl. The girl kept everything casual and civil.

The guy is very interested with her. The girl is simply cold. She doesn’t want to get married. She just wanted a better life for her daughter. The guy is quite well off. He offered her most men offers to the women of their interest, marriage.

The guy said that the girl is intelligent. The girl thinks the same way towards the guy. The guy is starting to fall for the girl. The girl feels otherwise.

The guy wants to rush the girl in making a decision, a decision that would alter the girls’ life and her daughter. The guy wants to know if the girl is interested in marrying him. The girl answered no. That was the end of it.

In the age of online dating, the age of love-less relationships, one could always hop into the wagon of marriage in hope of a better future. The girl is a common example of the many women who wishes a betterment of her life, also the girl wishes to find that comfort with a guy she truly loves. She is a romantic and she believes that love should be the basis of marriage. The guy just wanted to have a child of his own. And from the girls’ point of understanding, he wants it from a girl who comes from another country with no other choice but to live with him and accept him for whom he is.

The girl felt a wave of relief when the guy stopped communicating with her. She doesn’t mean to be rude but she somehow blatantly told the guy that she doesn’t want marriage, not just yet though.

She’ll eventually find that guy whom her heart longs for. Whether he belongs to the same race or not, what would matter then would be that they’ll love each other and hold each other with high respect.

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